Sunday, March 15, 2009

Life and Death

What a turn of events I've experienced this weekend, high highs and low lows. Here I sit, the sun has gone down, I finished reading my book and I'm feeling rather melancholy. I've had a weekend of curling, Friday night I played with my regular mixed team at 5, we won and I played with the Strassman team at 7 and we won that game too. So Friday ended on a fairly high note.

Saturday I woke up with a fierce allergy attack, I think the weather played a large part in it. Now that things are starting to warm up, the plants are budding and there is a lot of mold in the air. Anyway, I felt pretty crappy when I woke up but fortunately I did not have to curl until noon so I was able to take an allergy pill and I was feeling pretty good by the time we threw our first stones.

I received a phone call as I was getting ready to leave Saturday morning but was unable to get to the phone. I listened to the message and it was my nephew Jason asking me to call him back. The first thing that entered my head was that something had happened to my brother Rick because Jason never calls me. Then I told myself to not think like that and just call him back. Jason informed me that he and his wife are going to have a baby! YAY, I was really surprised excited to hear that and it made me feel good that he called me to tell me. What a wonderful surprise, it put me in high spirits as I headed off to the curling club.

We had a great day of curling, we won both of our games, had a fun time at the banquet. The theme was "Rockstar," most people dressed as their idea of a "rockstar." It was a lot of fun. I came home early as directed by my skip. I have to say it was difficult, my car wanted to swing into the bar parking lot on my way home. I mean hell, I had my 'rockstar' clothes on, hate to see the leather go to waste. But I was a good girl and directed the vehicle home.

I was up bright and early this morning and had the coffee brewing by 0600. I love watching the sun rise in the morning. I drank coffee, played on the Internet and watched the sun rise. This was the day, my team is in the 1st event and we're playing against the Anderson rink. We could not have asked for a better opponent. I think it is funny how Amy was supposed to be on our team but there was a conflict with her broom ball team so she couldn't play with us. We found another player and two days later she finds out that her broom ball tournament is a different weekend so she plays with Loafy's team. And that's the team we are going against in the final event, go figure. We had a fun game, I little disappointing in the 7th end, they scored 6 points on us. We just could not get their rocks out of the house! It was a little weird I had said to Rebecca that I was hoping we would be tied in the eighth end so it would come down to final rocks. Well, that's not quite how it happened, we were down by two and had the hammer in the eighth end. We tied the game and had to go into an extra end. They won! I can't complain we had a fun game and if we have to lose I am happy it was to that team. After the game we hung out at the club for a while then I came home.

When I got home I could hear that my answering machine was beeping, I had two messages. I'm not usually too anxious to listen because it is usually solicitors calling. I hit the play button and received a message from dad that my cousin Doug had died last night. I knew he was not doing very well. When I was in Colorado mom had called and told me that they did not expect Doug to make it and that my aunt and uncle were heading to Seattle to see him. Doug had been battling cancer for quite some time, there just wasn't anything the doctors could do. Mom was pretty upset and I spent quite a bit of time on the phone with her so when I received the message from dad today I wasn't really surprised just bummed out.

Life and Death, I get a called Saturday morning saying we're getting a new member of the family and received a call on Sunday saying we've lost a member of the family. It's the story of my world and it always gets me to thinking.

I spent the rest of the afternoon outside because that's where I always run to when I need to think. I took Lash to the park then worked in the backyard. I guess I just needed to see a little more life. The trees are budding, the grass is turning green. I raked leaves off the flower bed looking to see if any bulbs were coming up. I knew there wouldn't be, it's too early and the ground is still frozen but I had to do something. It's how I think, keep moving, let the thoughts flow.

Whenever someone dies it makes me wonder, what happens when we die??? I have my ideas, I have my beliefs but we never truly know until we die. I'm not afraid to die, I think living is scarier, getting hurt is more frightening, watching someone else die really sucks, but dying itself doesn't really scare me. It's kinda morbid to think about; at least that's what people tell me. But I'm sure we've all thought about dying. What happens? Does it hurt? Where do we go? Do we just die? Is there an afterlife? Is there a God? All great questions.

I've had lots of great conversations about Life and Death and most everyone has a different idea. Personally I believe there is a separation between the physical and the spiritual self. We live in and create our three dimensional physical reality and that can die. Our spiritual self does not die. Our bodies are our vehicles with which we propel ourselves through this physical reality. Just like a car, when it gets old and worn out we replace it with a new one. When our car dies we don't necessarily mourn the loss of our car and I don't think we will mourn the loss of our bodies when we decide to leave it. When someone dies I mourn the loss of that person, the spiritual entity and the connection we shared.

It's interesting to me how we can connect so profoundly with someone in an instant and other people we can know our entire lives and never connect with them. I could go on and one about this, it's where my brain is at tonight but I think I would do myself better if I just meditate on it. I tend to find more answers when I shut up.

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